Same Sex Marriage
The question of equal rights has always been arguable. Even when some people are given the right to do something, this can restrict the right of others. In particular, it concerns the right to marry a person who is of the same sex. Some people gain the right to live with the beloved person and not to hide their feelings and some people lose the right to live in the world with the high moral values and prevent their children from seeing such couples on the streets holding hands and kissing. Of course, these poor people are not to blame for being attracted to the people of their sex.
There are even biological and psychological explanations of this anomaly. Some people have serious biological deviations like testosterone decreasing and estrogen increasing in gays and adrenogenital syndrome in lesbians (“Biological Causes of Same-sex Attraction”, 2016)
The psychological factors are broader and in most cases they are the ones, who cause this problem. For example, unhealthy relationships with parents, when the child feels abandoned from one of the parents. Not successful relationships with the different gender in school, being bullied, or just the inability to find common ground with them.
Some people become attracted to the people of the same sex after the broken relationships that affected their emotional state. Especially women who suffered from domestic violence and sexual abuse are most prone to become same-sex attracted because thus they can be sure that they will not be beaten. Some men feel embarrassed about the size of their genitals and are afraid of being laughed at by women (“What Causes Male Homosexuality?” n. d.). Some people, usually teenagers, just want to stand out. Having nothing that could prove that they are different or better than others, they choose to become gay or lesbians. This is very sad because rebelling in young age they deprive themselves of having a happy family with children in future.
All these people have a lot of traumas and are deeply unhappy. The social rejection even worsens their state. Some countries have already entered the position of these people and passed a law that allows them to get married. The first country who adopted this law was the Netherlands in 2000. Later it was Belgium, Canada, and Spain. The last country was Ireland, which adopted this law in 2015 and the signed but not yet effective is the adopted law in Finland. The general amount of such countries is 21, as for today (Waxman, 2015).
The statistics show that amount of same-sex couples is higher in these countries, and it is difficult to tell whether it is because of some kind of propaganda there, or just because the same people hide their attraction, and no one knows about them in the countries, where such relationships are forbidden.
I also do not support families who give up their children just because they are not like all. Sometimes it not only does not help their children but make them sure that their choice is right. A lot of doctors claim that this is a disease that can be cured and offer the hormone treatment or psychotherapy depending on what caused this mental illness. In my opinion, as soon as the teenager appears to become attracted to the people of the same sex, immediate actions should be taken by the parents: visiting an endocrinologist, psychotherapist, changing environment if needed.
If nothing helps, they have just to learn how to accept him or her as they are. As they say, what cannot be cured must be endured. Otherwise, they can even provoke some other problems like substances abuse and suicide. But accepting the people the way they are do not mean allowing them to promote their behavior, marry, adopt children and show their love on the streets making other people feel embarrassed. Of course, it somehow restricts their rights. But only this way we can be sure that our children will be raised only in the healthy environment seeing the right model of family and not being bullied by the peers because of same-sex parents.